je suis quand même la personne que j’aime le plus au monde je veux dire forcément je suis la personne qui remplit le mieux mes critères de centre d’intérêts/apparence/style/humour donc je suis la personne que je préfère ça devrait être pareil pour tout le monde
Anita Sarkeesian, whose excellent Tropes vs Women in Video Games series is an important contribution to the discussion of gender and games, has been driven from her home by enraged male gamers whose stalking, and explicit, credible threats of sexual violence against her and her family convinced her to go into hiding.
In so doing, these men have ably demonstrated the point Sarkeesian sought to make all along: that gaming is riddled with misogynistic violence, and that this violence reflects a real-world misogyny rampant within the gaming world.
Trolls drive Anita Sarkeesian out of her house to prove misogyny doesn’t exist [Adi Robertson/The Verge]
- Mike Brown’s mom laid flowers where he was shot and police let a dog pee on the memorial site
- “Stand Up Against Racism" demonstration outside US Embassy in London
- Police claim to have no records of arrests of journalists
- Illinois school bans discussions of Mike Brown’s death
- Gov. Nixon introduces new Public Safety Director
- Push for police to wear body cameras continues
- Jon Stewart on Ferguson
schwirl said: Lolita is sexual. Literally. The definition of lolita is a sexually attractive adolescent girl. It's not just a cute 'kawaii' fashion statement. You can't sexualise something that is already sexual by default.
Wrong, wrong, and wrong. Literally. If I got a dollar for every person who thought this because they couldn’t be assed to do their research, I’d be a happy girl indeed.
Lolita is a book written by Vladimir Nabokov about a girl named Dolores Haze, but her nickname is Lolita. The protagonist of Lolita falls in love with Dolores despite him being 42 and her being 12. He is a pedophile who abuses, rapes and takes sexual advantage of her after becoming her stepfather.
Lolita FASHION is something else entirely. Lolita FASHION is a fashion trend that started in Harajuku, inspired by victorian fashion, victorian dolls, sailor dresses and femininity, and most of all, self-expression. It has NOTHING to do with the book by the same name. The only thing they share is their name. Lolita FASHION has nothing to do with sex, because it’s just that; A FASHION.
Lolita is a term misguided and misinformed people (such as yourself) use about attractive girls when, in truth, it stems from a book about a pedophile rapist.
Do your research before you try to start a discussion on something you have no clue about. There is absolutely no reason for you to be this much of an arrogant know-it-all when you haven’t even done the research to back up your arguments. Don’t be overconfident before you’re 100% certain that you’re right.
Can I just add a thing here
When my mum heard about / discovered that this weird fashion I started trying to wear at 16 was called “lolita,” she had a miniature heart attack. She thought I didn’t understand that that word was used in the wrong context often. She thought that the fashion was intended to be sexual and that I was too naive to understand that, and that I just took it to be a cute fashion. Here’s the thing tho: it IS just a cute fashion. And after explaining this, she was then worried that other gross people would sexualise me against my will or target me and therefore I shouldn’t be wearing it.
Wrong. It is other people’s fault for sexualising me, not mine. It is never my fault, if I am sexualised against my will. It is never anybody’s fault.
Especially when, personally, I liked the idea of lolita because it was so darn sweet and elegant, and in my opinion, so not-sexually-charged in a world that shoved sex in my face every day. It was a breath of fresh air. I’ve had more sexual connotations associated with me when I was fucking 12 and wore a tank top and shorts to grade 7 orientation on a hot summers day and everyone who didn’t know my name called me ~the girl with the boobs~ for two years straight. Like ????
And then we fast forward to when I met my dad’s partner and she heard about lolita and had a minature heart attack because, in juxtaposition to my mum, it was so adorable, she couldn’t believe it. In her native culture, Lolita was a nickname for Dolores and had little-to-no sexual connotations with it. She even, if my memory serves me right, mentioned that lolita or dolly was just something you called sweet young girls. So the word was really fitting and it was all just so sweet and cute. She even pronounces it with a Spanish accent despite having an Australian accent because that’s what you do with totally native words.
So I’m emphasising a cultural difference here.
And here’s my thing, here’s a bit of TL;DR:
Have pedophiles and misogynist pigs who sexualise young girls seriously infiltrated every aspect of our society that it is somehow more fucking plausible that girls who want to dress in cute and feminine fashion are doing so because they want to be sexualised? Or that they should expect to be sexualised? Is that what people are saying now? That girls cannot take charge over their lives and their aesthetic for one god damned second before being, yet again, sexualised in every aspect of their being?
I don’t want to use ‘you’re damned if you do, and damned if you don’t’ but hey, that’s all I can muster up right now because I feel like I’m on a different fricking planet.
And, as a not-so-subtle side note, if you don’t think mainstream porn and it’s culture has something to do with this, you are dead wrong.
Amazing new concept: If girls want to be sexual, they can be sexual. If they don’t, they don’t. Either fucking way it is impossible to win when mainstream society oversexualises young girls and their fashion in an ~adult way~ and if you somehow take a different path you’re fetishised as an ~innocent sex nymph doll~ like where the fuck do we draw the line?
I will tell you where we draw the god damned line: where ever the fuck the girl in question draws her own m o t h er fricking line.
Thank you for writing this. I thought they were the same thing and I was really disturbed so I’m REALLY glad to learn that the fashion and the book are not related at all, whew. Also gross men stop it and go away.
holy mother of Jesus PREACH IT MINA
My big question is why, in 2014, people still read that freaking book and are not able to think ‘Wow, it’s HER NICKNAME not some sexual connotation with her being underaged! omg! News!! News!’ I’m glad I can tell people here where I live that I like lolita fashion because no one thinks it’s some sort of trap to catch predators or something since people know it’s a NAME.
white people: mike brown robbed that store!
Lawyer: no he didn’t
Store owners: nope
Eye witnesses: nah
white people: MIKE BROWN ROBBED THAT STORE
people who are paying attention: hey hey did you know that robbing a store is not actually grounds for an extrajudicial execution anyway
japanese people: yeah sure wear a kimono even though you are white, just know what it means and stands for! and just understand that by wearing this, you are paying respect to our culture! so please do so with careful thought!
white people on tumblr: IF U ARE WHITE nEVER WEAR A KIMONO DONT EVEN FUCKING LOOK AT IT !!!! CULTURAL APPROPRIATION 101 IF I CATCH U SMEELING A KIMONO I WILL KILL YOU UNTIL YOU ARE DEAD!!!!!!!! DONT EVEN GO TO JAPAN OR THINK ABOUT JAPAN JUST DIE
THISSSSSSSSS! This applies to Shinto and a lot of other Japanese cultural things. Unless something is stated to be explicitly off limits to a certain type of people (as in Priests versus normal people), the Japanese culture itself is happy that people want to be apart of their culture as long as their traditions are respected and not misused.
However, isn’t it also important to note that in these discussions, Westerners should perhaps pay particular attention to Japanese diaspora living abroad as much as they pay attention to, say, Kyary?
I’m sure Olivia had her own reasons for reblogging this, but she’s the only Japanese individual I know in Canada/the States who isn’t rubbed the wrong way by people feeling like they can claim Japanese cultural facets whenever they please. As Roma, I’m part of a culture that is also commodified with varying degrees of consent (mostly none), and I understand many Japanese people when they express frustration at Western ambivalence toward casually picking apart their culture for things to commercially consume.
Of course, Westerners can perhaps respectfully wear wafuku at the proper time and place in the West! There are times and places for that…but 9 times out of 10 — if not a higher frequency than even that — this mindful and respectful practice is not happening. After enduring that through generations of commodification and abuse, it’s completely acceptable for members of the Japanese diaspora to be tired of people grabbing at their culture and religion.
I come to this discussion as a mixed race Westerner living in the U.S. who’s spent time in Japan studying holistic wellness and Shinto and also as someone who is constantly striving for mindful practice in Shinto. I also come to this discussion as someone who sees actual Japanese people making these statements more than random white people on Tumblr. All a person has to do is follow or read ThisIsNotJapan to see this in action.
That being said, overzealous white people with serious white guilt complexes are ruining important discussions and taking up space where Japanese people need to be heard. That is TOTALLY a thing. It’s gross. It’s actually happening in the OP, minus the guilt.
Posts like OP’s, however, are usually just damn weeaboos or weeaboo apologists pitting native Japanese people and diaspora Japanese people against one another. Many friends in Japan have told me similar things regarding what’s acceptable…because they’ve never dealt with being the non-dominant race and culture in a country before.
This derailing nonsense perpetrated by Westerners like the OP has to stop. Western Shinto practitioners and kimono owners are often 100% welcome, but Westerners also have to look at the sordid history behind why ANY Japanese individual would be completely in the right to have severe misgivings about either.
#i’m sick of my friends being spoken over by white people using native japanese people’s words against other japanese people #that’s messed up #i think any mindful and respectful person would not take issue with these points #it’s indeed playing into OP’s hand by me explaining this as a Westerner #however i’m taking this work on so my exhausted Japanese sisters don’t have to #because they’re exhausted #because exotification commodification and objectification are EXHAUSTING #and they don’t need to be doing this if they have legitimate allies in solidarity
Shelly Frey, (pictured) a 27-year-old mother of two has been fatally shot by an off-duty sheriff’s deputy after he suspected her of shoplifting at a Houston Walmart.
I am SO goddamned tired of this shit.
damn, they won’t let up. we can’t run and we can’t surrender. what do they expect us to do? they killed this woman over what some merchandise? you let out on some garments what twisted universe do you gotta come from when a overtime punching rent-a-cop even bothers to chase and then pull a gun? smh rip because there is nothing but war on this side of the final curtain.
I cannot.. I can’t….
This is shit. No one should shoot anyone over fucking shoplifting.
Shelly Frey lost her life and her children lost their mother because a cop wanted to fucking play hero over fucking shoplifting.
— Témoignage datant de juillet 2006. Dans Les filles voilées parlent” Ismahane Chouder, Malika Latrèche, Pierre Tevanian p.213-215 (via verrederegles)